Do You Cut of Your Nose to Spite Your Face?

smell the roses

Do you remember that old saying, “Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face?” I’ve been thinking about it lately. Typically we use it when a person does something spiteful to hurt others that also hurts himself. Yet,  sometimes we don’t even know we are doing this. I see this happening often when we [...]

What’s the Definition of a “Mistake”?

mistake oops

Are mistakes possible? We often say, “I made a mistake.” Yet, most Judeo-Christian religions believe God makes no mistakes. If there are no mistakes, can we even define the word “mistake”? What would the definition be? If God makes no mistakes that means your child with a heart defect was not a mistake, hurricane Sandy [...]

Can You Ever Be Prepared For What Life Brings?

Can you ever be prepared for a storm like Sandy?

We spend much of our life trying to prepare for what we think will happen or what we hope will happen or what we want to happen in the future. We make plans. We get training. We pack. We save. We think positive thoughts. We imagine what it will be like. We plot out our [...]

Should You Live Your Life Looking Backward?

What was I learning

Many of us get stuck in the past. By that I mean we end up living our life looking backward at things that happened in our lives and regretting them. Some call this “looking in the rear view mirror.” I call it living life looking backward. Here’s the thing: No matter what bad thing happened [...]

Simple Thoughts of Gratitude on the Anniversary of 9-11

I woke today at 5 a.m. in California worrying. “I should get up and check the news,” I thought. “I should be sure everything is okay in New York.” Both my children are in New York. But I don’t like to focus on the negative.I try not to worry (although I’m a worrier and was [...]

Find the Strength to Get Up When You Fall

I’ve been working really hard lately to change my negative thoughts into positive ones in a variety of areas in my life. I’m a firm believer in the creative nature of our thoughts and words. Sometimes, however, I need inspiration as well–I need to be reminded that I need to keep persevering even when something [...]

What Constitues a Disaster Lies in the Eyes of the Beholder

Town washed away in Japanese Tsunami

Two days after the tremendous earthquake in Japan I was watching the news. I don’t actually watch the news that often, but I wanted to see what was happening in Japan and also how the tsunami had affected the California coastline. I had heard that Santa Cruz, just 20 minutes from where I live–had born [...]

Lessons learned from Christina Aguilera’s Super Bowl Mistake

Have you ever wondered why more people have a fear of public speaking than of dying? The reason is simple. They don’t want to be in the position Christina Aguilera found herself in yesterday as she sang the national anthem at the Super Bowl. In front of millions of people she messed up part of [...]

What We Can Learn from the Resiliency of Trees

On Friday I took a walk in a nearby Christmas tree farm. Many people who live near to me walk there. It’s quite beautiful. I walked in the morning because in the afternoon the tree farm would be filled with people buying trees–or rather cutting down trees. As I walked I looked at the trees. [...]

How to Heal, Find Happiness and Feel Grateful

Not long ago I wrote a post in which I asked what people do to make themselves happy. I also publish many of my posts at VibrantNation.com, and there I received a comment from someone struggling with HOW to be happy. The woman’s daughter was struggling with a difficult situation. With Thanksgiving and the holiday [...]