While it is all well and good to want “things” in the physical world, and it is part of our nature as physical beings to want and to need material stuff, the Kabbalists teach that such desires — and even the fulfillment of those desires — will never make us happy. Additionally, they will never open us to the flow of goodness and pleasure that God is waiting to give to us.
Thus, we must change what we want. First, we must want a new attitude or way of approaching life and all it gives us — or doesn’t give us. We need to find a way to simply be okay with our current situation. This doesn’t mean we don’t want to change it for the better or take action to accomplish this. Until we manifest this desire, however, we choose not to suffer. We learn to be in the now, in the moment, okay with what is, with what we have. We learn to see what we have in a different light — with gratitude. We must feel good where we are while acknowledging that we want to be somewhere else, we want to receive something different.
Secondly, we must develop a desire for something different. We must want a new desire. We have to want to manifest a desire to receive not for ourselves alone but for the sake of giving unconditionally to others. In affect, the Kabablists tell us that what we should desire is a new consciousness. Only when we manifest this new consciousness will we truly be happy. And only then can we open ourselves fully to the flow of Infinite goodness and pleasure.