Valentine’s Day Reminds Us to Appreciate Those We Love 
 

Feb. 7, 2008

Heart-shaped boxes full of candy. Red and pink cards. Roses. Bags of chocolate kisses and hard candies that say, "Be mine." Advertisements for diamonds in all sizes, shapes and forms. It's hard to forget the fact that Valentine's Days is upon us once again. Valentine's Day represents a wonderful opportunity to tell those we care about the most how we truly feel about them and reminds us that we really should be doing this every day of the year. It's amazing how a small expression of love and appreciation can improve a relationship, but many of us forget this little bit of relationship advice. For this reason, for most couples Valentine's Day offers a great chance to recommit to truly appreciating and loving each other.

If you are newly in love, you likely express your feelings both verbally and physically often and shower your partner with flowers and love-laced poems, cards and gifts on a regular basis. Valentine's day represents just one more opportunity to do more of the same. That's one of the reasons that new relationships thrive - the partners are so focused on showing their love and appreciation for each other.

If you are in a long-term relationship, however, you might more often forget to say "I love you" or to show your spouse or significant other on a regular basis that he or she is appreciated and adored. In other words, you might not appreciate your partner or spouse - or show that appreciation even if you feel it. Such couples should celebrate Valentine's even if they don't feel like it, because it's a great reminder and opportunity to express their love and to show their appreciation outwardly for those deep down inside they care about most - even if they no longer realize it.

If you are stuck in a relationship rut, Valentine's Day can serve as the beginning of a new "love and appreciation" campaign that last not just for 24 hours but all year long - in fact, all relationship long. Instead of making February 14th a Hallmark holiday - one that simply involves the purchasing of a card and a gift - you can make it the first day that you commit to revving up the romance in your relationship and in your life. You can spend time and energy remember and expressing all the reasons why you first loved and appreciated your partner, and then you can watch how the relationship heats up.

The longer people are married or together, the more common it is for them to take each other and their relationship for granted. So, Valentine's Day offers them a chance to remember how much they love and appreciate each other. It's a chance to commemorate the many year's they've been together and to recommit to their relationship once again.

Just like an anniversary or a retaking of wedding vows, Valentine's day can be a time when couples say, "I'd marry you all over again." Or it can be a time to look back over the years and remember both the good and the bad times, the easy and the hard times, and to be grateful they weathered them all together.

Since Valentine's Day does only come once a year, remember to show your appreciation and gratitude for those you love on a regular basis. It's so easy to forget to say "thank you" and "I really appreciate it when you do that" and "I love you." Learn to shower your partner with gratitude so he or she always feels loved and appreciated. Don't wait for a special day like Valentine's Day. Do it every day. Your partner will love you for it. And your love will grow because of it.